PRE-MARITAL SEX

This study will not deal with the standard reasons for why this is wrong, but will look at the issue from a different perspective, one that I suspect that few people think about.

Why is it wrong?

What far too many people including Christians seem to be unaware of, is the fact that when a man and a woman have sex, they become "one flesh" in the eyes of God. Adam understood this when he said,

GENESIS 2:23-24

23 And Adam said, This [is] now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.

24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

And here is where the problem begins.

Satan is the ultimate lawyer and will use any disobedience to God's commandments to request permission of God to attack people, especially Christians, and bring them under bondage or possession.

Solomon knew of this when he said;

ECCLESIASTES 10:8

8 He that diggeth a pit shall fall into it; and whoso breaketh an hedge, a serpent shall bite him.

Satan complained to God concerning Job, because He had placed a hedge of protection about him, so that he, Satan could not get to him.

JOB 1:6-22

6 Now there was a day when the sons of God came to present themselves before the LORD, and Satan came also among them.

7 And the LORD said unto Satan, Whence comest thou? Then Satan answered the LORD, and said, From going to and fro in the earth, and from walking up and down in it.

8 And the LORD said unto Satan, Hast thou considered my servant Job, that [there is] none like him in the earth, a perfect and an upright man, one that feareth God, and escheweth evil?

9 Then Satan answered the LORD, and said, Doth Job fear God for nought?

10 Hast not thou made an hedge about him, and about his house, and about all that he hath on every side? thou hast blessed the work of his hands, and his substance is increased in the land.

11 But put forth thine hand now, and touch all that he hath, and he will curse thee to thy face.

12 And the LORD said unto Satan, Behold, all that he hath [is] in thy power; only upon himself put not forth thine hand. So Satan went forth from the presence of the LORD.

13 And there was a day when his sons and his daughters [were] eating and drinking wine in their eldest brother's house:

14 And there came a messenger unto Job, and said, The oxen were plowing, and the asses feeding beside them:

15 And the Sabeans fell [upon them], and took them away; yea, they have slain the servants with the edge of the sword; and I only am escaped alone to tell thee.

16 While he [was] yet speaking, there came also another, and said, The fire of God is fallen from heaven, and hath burned up the sheep, and the servants, and consumed them; and I only am escaped alone to tell thee.

17 While he [was] yet speaking, there came also another, and said, The Chaldeans made out three bands, and fell upon the camels, and have carried them away, yea, and slain the servants with the edge of the sword; and I only am escaped alone to tell thee.

18 While he [was] yet speaking, there came also another, and said, Thy sons and thy daughters [were] eating and drinking wine in their eldest brother's house:

19 And, behold, there came a great wind from the wilderness, and smote the four corners of the house, and it fell upon the young men, and they are dead; and I only am escaped alone to tell thee.

20 Then Job arose, and rent his mantle, and shaved his head, and fell down upon the ground, and worshipped,

21 And said, Naked came I out of my mother's womb, and naked shall I return thither: the LORD gave, and the LORD hath taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD.

22 In all this Job sinned not, nor charged God foolishly.

This same hedge is placed about us as Christians by the Lord, and if we break that hedge through sin, Satan will have access to us.

And here resides the crux of the whole pre-marital sex issue.

As a unmarried man and woman become "one flesh", the demons in either party have now legal access to both parties, thereby bringing both people under bondage to Satan, as they are now both one in body and spirit.

So if one person who is free of demonic infestation has sex outside of marriage with a demon-infested person, the demons have a legal right to enter the clean person due to their bonding and their disobedience of God's commandments. And if both are clean, Satan has access to both of them because of the same disobedience. The hedge has been breached.

Can Christians be infested with demons this way?

Unfortunately, yes, because they have disobeyed the Lord's commandments. God has commanded that a man and woman have sex only after marriage and only with each other for this very reason. As the author of Hebrews says;

HEBREWS 13:4

4 Marriage [is] honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

To further protect His people, He also said through the apostle Paul;

1 CORINTHIANS 6:9-10

9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,

10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

Note:

"Fornicators" are those who have sex while unmarried.

"Effeminate" are those who are transvestites and cross-dressers.

"Abusers of themselves with mankind" refers to homosexuals.

Furthermore, Christians need to understand;

I CORINTHIANS 6:15-20

15 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make [them] the members of an harlot? God forbid.

16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.

17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.

18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost [which is] in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

God specifically gives warning to protect His people from complications arising from marrying a spiritually unclean partner;

2 CORINTHIANS 6:14-18

14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?

16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in [them]; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.

17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean [thing]; and I will receive you,

18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.

Your body is God's Temple! If you have sex outside of marriage, commit adultery, or marry someone who doesn't have Jesus in their heart, you defile your body, which is His Temple.

And woe to those who defile His Temple, for He again says through the apostle Paul;

I CORINTHIANS 3:16-17

16 Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and [that] the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?

17 If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which [temple] ye are.

As previously stated, when a man and a woman join together, they become "one flesh" in the eyes of God. Which means that you are considered married in the eyes of God! And if you go from partner to partner, you commit adultery in the eyes of God, because you have left your first spouse!

As God stated to the children of Israel concerning unmarried women;

EXODUS 2:16

16 And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife.

He also put further restrictions upon them concerning the issue, as well as that of rape and adultery when He said;

DEUTERONOMY 22:22-29

22 If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, [both] the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel.

23 If a damsel [that is] a virgin be betrothed unto an husband, and a man find her in the city, and lie with her;

24 Then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the damsel, because she cried not, [being] in the city; and the man, because he hath humbled his neighbour's wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among you.

25 But if a man find a betrothed damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie with her: then the man only that lay with her shall die:

26 But unto the damsel thou shalt do nothing; [there is] in the damsel no sin [worthy] of death: for as when a man riseth against his neighbour, and slayeth him, even so [is] this matter:

27 For he found her in the field, [and] the betrothed damsel cried, and [there was] none to save her.

28 If a man find a damsel [that is] a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found;

29 Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty [shekels] of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.

Note that last part of verse 29? If you sleep with an unmarried woman, God says you willmake her your wife, and you may never divorce her! (The 50 shekels of silver was the dowry price paid to the father of the woman, to compensate him for the loss of his daughter.)

We live in a permissive society that tolerates and even encourages pre-marital sex, and our children are being taught that pre-marital sex is ok, "as long as you use protection". Some institutions even pass out free condoms.

But they are ignorant of the spiritual implications of pre-marital sex!

I know of numerous households where a teenage daughter had a sudden personality change, becoming belligerent, disobedient to her parents, spiteful, and hateful, and it was later discovered that she had been having sex with her boyfriend. The same with boys who were having sex with their girlfriends. A sudden personality change is many times a major sign of demonic activity within a person's life, and shows that the demon(s) are gaining control, and the demon(s) personalities are showing through the person.

Parents, you are responsible for the actions of your children while they are under your roof. Therefore, they are under your authority, and you are required to teach them the laws that God has set down concerning issues such as this.

Those who don't, fall under the condemnation of:

1 Timothy 5:8

8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

Instructions

Those who have had pre-marital sex need to repent before Jesus, asking His forgiveness of your sins and disobedience, even if you married the partner you had sex with. Then you must petition Him to break the spiritual and demonic links between you and your former partners. If you had pre-marital sex only with your present spouse, ask God to cleanse and sanctify the bonds between you.

You must also command that any demons that entered you and may have entered your spouse through your disobedience and the sexual act depart in the name of Jesus Christ.

Then ask Jesus to close any doorways in your spirit that might have been opened for Satan to enter by your acts, and ask Him to cover any links between you and your former partners with His blood, that they may be severed once and for all.

Finally, ask Him to separate you from the sins of your former partners, and cleanse you through His blood, that you may be clean.

And above all, if you have children, teach them about the spiritual dangers of pre-marital sex!

As Proverbs so eloquently states;

PROVERBS 22:6

6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Those of you who have read this study are now responsible before the Lord for the knowledge you have been given. Satan will probably try to hinder you from acting on this knowledge, and whether he is successful or not is largely up to you.

As the apostle James says;

James 4:17

17 Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth [it] not, to him it is sin.

Remember the hedge! It's hard to defend your fortress when the enemy is already within the gates!

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